Now that's something that has changed from when I was in my early 20s. In my early 20s, when I got dumped I would just party wth my gal pals until I got distracted by the next guy at the bar.
Generally speaking, the rules prevent ardent, true-love seekers from coming on too strong or from tying others down.It's not that I feel the need to be in a relationship because of some biological countdown or an overpriced party that is more for your family and friends than for you. Because here's the thing, you can not want kids, not want to get married, be the most independent boss babe out there and still just want to love someone and have that love reciprocated. I just got dumped by someone who I felt really safe with. The voice of doubt and judgement only gets louder as we get older. Your coping mechanisms may be different, you will undoubtedly ride less mechanical bulls hopped up on Jagerbombs in order to get over a breakup, but you are still the brave, intelligent, talented and bold person you have always been, and you don't need a relationship to tell you that. You want to find a partner who you can share your life with, the good and the bad, with no judgment, burden or obligation. He's liked me for a long time and I was so sure it was going to work out. We are so quick to blame ourselves and that makes sense. Gone are the days of shallow standards and thinking going over to "watch a movie" at 2 a.m. Maybe I'm just jaded or just exhausted, or maybe I'm just growing up. And as I enter my late 20s I've started to notice the dating scene is, well, different.