But she was also making the mistake of getting defensive and walking on egg shells.So I simply told her that she needs to approach the problem with him objectively – she needs to point out the fact that he’s always assuming and that’s his big issue.BPD is a serious disorder and it’s important to not forget this.However, it’s equally important that we approach this issue by removing the BPD label. Before we get into the 5 common BPD issues, I first want to quickly talk about how the past influences behavior.If you look at your own relationship history, you will probably notice a pattern of dating the same type of men.For men with BPD, this pattern isn’t going to be as simple as ‘he only dates women with brown hair.’ Instead, the pattern to look for is going to be more like ‘he only dates women who wear their hearts on their shoulders and fall in love quickly.’ As I always say, you attract what you project.Whenever they receive any sort of criticism or feedback, they take it negatively and either get defensive or shy away.
But when that masks comes off, you experience who he really is.
This leads to inefficient work flow, lack of communication with team members and those on the front lines, mediocre products instead of high quality ones, and overall a loss in revenue.
When it comes to your relationship, you need to prioritize these symptoms.
They receive feedback and criticism objectively – they don’t take it personally.
It doesn’t result in arguments, and they continue about their day unscathed.