Well with all the delete votes this is getting I am beginning to wonder if this might be redundant and yes I did do a search but didn't get the answer I was looking for or if some may think it will take the wind out of their sails if exclusive actually gets defined. There are folk that date multiple people, and sleep with as many that will let them.
Exclusivity, can only be expected -- if, you have had the conversation (and defined what it means to both of you).
The definition of a relationship to the one at a time dater would equal sex if the exclusive dating would make it to that point. There are umpteen threads on here where the couple did not have the exclusivity talk, and wondered why their partner was:1. I am trying to clarify that in my mind because that is not what exclusive means to me.
Please chime in on both sides as to how you define the terms exclusive and relationship and which one equals sex if at all. I don't think that exclusivity and sex are the same thing to the 'multidater' that you talk about...
You may look up the word on line.see what others beleive the " WORD " means ?
I said my thoughts and I'll wait for the storm as always to happen !
I get the feeling after reading all of the multidating threads that there is a different definition for what exclusive is and for what a relationship is to the multidater vs the one at a time dater.
I'm trying to figure out how this works because either I'm not understanding it or I'm just not used to it. Exclusive and sex are not one and the same for me."Exclusive" means that you are in a "relationship" and have both agreed not to date others.
After 4 dates and being "exclusive", do you call each other boyfriend/girlfriend? Both sound very similar and for me, both take some time to get to that point. I don't think sex comes into the equation as there are many couples who will not have sex until they have been a relationship for a certain length of time. I do think that a couple needs to have "the talk" and decide that they are going to be exclusive.
I hope you don't mind me using your example but since you gave it, I thought I'd use it. Assuming you are in an exclusive relationship without talking about it leads to all kinds of problems.
Multidaters are just people who see several people at a time but are not exclusive.