Also, focus specifically on what thoughts, ideas, and perspectives lead you to feeling like you’re walking on eggshells or worried about things falling apart or changing.
Journal about what leads you to this pattern of worrying and landing in disappointment… A question to ask yourself when your having the negative thoughts is: what is the lack or loss I’m afraid will happen here?
A few years back, I bought a very expensive plasma screen television.
I'm not going to advertise how much I spent, but it was more than some people pay for their cars.
Instead of landing you in a bad place, you’ll get clarity and insight. You can’t make a guy who doesn’t want a relationship want one. If you’re seeing a guy and then he begins to fade away or vanish, you need to realize there was nothing more you could have done.
And more importantly, it will turn a potentially bad vibe into an attractive vibe The problem is your mind has you convinced that your emotional detective line of thinking has a pay-off, as if you could possibly know what’s going on in his head/world. You can’t understand and “read” things that aren’t possible.
This causes them to give off a bad vibe and that bad vibe spreads to him and derails the relationship.
Actively journaling and tracing back the thoughts is that “key.” When you don’t identify the root of your thoughts and allow yourself to engage with them, they just cycle and spiral upwards.
When you journal in real time as its happening, you dissolve them and they won’t gain power.
I met a guy two weeks ago and we instantly hit it off.
We talked on the phone and texted regularly and went out on a few amazing dates.